Yesterday, I was sitting in my lawn enjoying the tea. As I was taking it sip by sip cool breeze starts blowing which touched my cheeks, it's really an awesome moment. I uttered Wow! What a wonderful life it is. I started thinking about life. Is world a stage where we are the actors performing our duties? Is our future predetermined?
In life everything boils down to just two categories. Things which are in our control and things which are not in our control. Former category says things we do control like our actions, our decisions, our thoughts. If we control these things then we control our future also. How? The kind of person we are right now depends upon the actions we had taken in past. By same analogy, the kind of persons we will be in the future depends upon the actions we perform in the present. Hence our future is partially in our control.
A man suffers more in his imagination than in reality. Seneca
Later category says things which are not in our control like external events. To tackle such situations we need to keep in our mind this timeless idea.
Events are objective. It's our judgement which makes things worse. Epictetus
We can practically use it in our day to day life. Let's say Today is my birthday(by the way today is not my birthday). Dad forgot to wish me. There are few possibilities related to it. He is very busy these days because of overwhelming work in his office or he doesn't love me. Former judgement saves my relation. It helps me to see things from his perspective. Latter one destroys it because of my negativity. So an event is objective it's our own judgement which creates an awesome or awful experience. We can also look at the same situation from the model of Hanlon's razor which says " Never attribute malice to those which can simply be explained by some other reasons."
God grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, courage to change the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Prayer
Why is there so much hatred and suffering in our lives? It's because of our attitude towards our fellow ones. What's wrong with our attitude? We are not treating persons as persons but as things to be utilized for our own benefits.
To every action, there is equal and opposite reaction. Newton's third law
Those persons will also treat us as things. Hence a vicious cycle. Can we do something about it? Yes, of course we can. We need to adopt loving attitude, not only with persons but with things also. If you are sitting on chair be loving. Have a feeling of gratitude towards it. Chair is not important. Even if you are eating, eat lovingly. Accept yourself. Love yourself. You are the source of your happiness. Enjoy every moment, be happy and keep smiling!!!
Objective judgement, now at this very moment.Unselfish action, now at this very moment.Willing acceptance, now at this very moment--- of all external events.That's the framework of life. Marcus Aurelius
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